Something I try to appreciate about Lila is that it can take her a little longer to reach milestones, and we get time to adjust to changes slowly and appreciate the progress. I thought this would mean I would be so relieved when Lila hits a new stage or phase that is relatively typical. It turns out that I’m still full of feelings that my baby is growing up. We are absolutely done having kids, which means that things like moving her to a toddler bed are bittersweet.
It’s been coming for awhile now, but last week during nap she got her leg fully over the side and so we moved her. It’s been an okay transition, and she’s napping in it much more willingly than Molly ever did, but it’s still a gut punch.
We have also mostly transitioned out of cloth diapers, because school is working hard on potty training and pull ups mean she can push her pants down herself.
As part of her graduating to a bigger bed, we got her a comforter and some new art to tie her woodland animals + emergency vehicles theme together. We didn’t actually re-theme Molly’s room until last fall so this feels very early to be giving into toddler whims and interests, but she needed a comforter and the options for crib sized ones are limited, especially with supply chain issues. The art was definitely me being excessive, but it’s cute and we’ll move some of her existing art into other areas of the house.
It is really nice to get to put things she likes up in her room, instead of the things we bought thinking about “the baby” who didn’t exist yet. She will eventually move into a bigger bed and we will probably get rid of her dresser in favor of something that doesn’t need to double as a changing table, and probably redo her closet a bit. So this is a stopgap but it feels good to just honor who she is right now, instead of obsessing over creating some kind of room that will grow with her.
Molly also outgrew her library card when she turned 7 at the end of last month and had to get an adult card! 😭😭😭 I thought her card was blocked because it was overdue but my friend’s sister, who works at the library, did some sleuthing and let me know that it was because their cards get locked when they turn 7! So I filled out the paperwork for her to get a new card, had her sign it herself, and sent her off to the library to get a grown up card!
Some of the weight of Lila growing older comes with the additional challenges our family faces - with her being more and more obviously older, she is no longer at an age where people who meet her don’t necessarily expect her to speak. The gap between her and her typical peers may continue to widen. As Molly gets older, she may start to understand just how much comes with having a sibling who is so different. A lot of kids with developmental delays don’t understand safety concerns or boundaries, so we are waiting to see whether we need to move more things out of her room that might be hazardous. She already prefers to sit in her little chair for stories sometimes, and the rocking chair will eventually move elsewhere in the house, sooner if she starts trying to stand in it. But as with everything, we will have to wait and see how it goes.
Have a lovely Thanksgiving if you celebrate it, and a wonderful weekend otherwise!